We all know about today’s century that what are the situations that every mother and father faces. Parents are the first teachers.The first academy of a child is mother’s lap,today if a child gets birth,the Islamic prayers are prayed in his ears but the process and way of life is not taught to him.This piece is about the negative results of today’s upbringing.
The fact is clearly deny that we all are born from the mother’s womb and it doesn’t matter at all that we were born from bibi hawa’s ribs or from Hazrat Adam because then it will lead to a very large discussion .
When a child first opens his eyes in this world and comes out from the womb so first of all he cries very much because this world becomes quite different from the mother’s womb.For not being so much familiar with this world,with the people and with the surroundings he cries unless he doesn’t becomes familiar.After coming out from the womb,some holy verses are prayed in his ears by the head of the family(Allah hu akbar) that makes him a Muslim but before the prayers he doesn’t knows what he is,what is his religion and what is his cast?
The only point to be noted is that when first of all a child opens his eyes so he is given the name of a “Human” later,when he grows up so he discovers his religion and nationality.As soon he starts growing mentally and physically,he also begins discovering his environment,his religion and cast.Along with this,his parents seek him that he is a Muslim,seek him the five pillars of Islam as well Hindu parents also seek their children about their religion that what is Pooja,bagwan,pandith,Sanskrit and etc,likewise Christians also seek their children about their religion that what is Christianity,church and worship.
At the starting point that what a child is before maturity and mental growth,we all have to agree that before the birth and maturity he is a “Human” because a kid comes to know and discover his religion after the mental growth,maturity and upbringing so we can’t reject the reality that before moralization and maturity we are”Humans”,we all come to know our religions when we grow up,when we hear the prayer calling from Masjids,see our mothers doing pooja,see our parents worshiping in churches.we can’t deny the fact that we are humans unless we don’t grow up mentally.Our minds grow up when we see our surroundings and our parents.Most importantly the points is that before we are”Humans”,then “Muslims”,”Christians”,”Hindus”,”Suniis”,” and our nationality comes.The point of agreement and opposition is obviously must but with consideration.
In the old ages i mean in A.D or B.C,people were living their lives like animals,they were completely arrogant ,illiterate and immature,they had disputes at very small things and they were living an arrogant life.They were indulged in all types of devils,they gambled,drank wine,disrespected woman and treated with them like slaves.Girls were dumped alive,they thought that the birth of a baby girl is wrong for the family and the birth of a baby girl is a sin.Slowly and gradually,their environment got worse,they all got the wrong track but when Islam came to advent and Hazrat Muhammad(S.A.W.W)(The holy prophet) entered in the environment so he started sorting out the problems and tried to take out them from the world of darkness,at the starting,a very few people accepted Islam and became Muslims but others refused to accept him as a Holy prophet and tortured him in different ways,non-Muslims threw stones at him when he came out of his house but he tolerated the all bottomless punishments,poco a poco all accepted Islam and became Muslims.Their life became comfortable and restful.Now,they were enjoying their lives,women were given their rights,and the trend of dumping baby girls alive,was terminated.
Like wise centuries passed,19th century finished and people jumped in 20th century that was a new year for them as all Muslims were monotheists and they started living together then in 1997 the great country”Pakistan” appeared on the map that is a free democratic country for Muslims(A free nation for Muslims).
That time technology was v.poor and letters were used to convey messages to each other so people weren’t that much educated.That time Moralization was brilliant,parents and teachers gave perfect education to children.They aware them about their rights,religion and nationality.Parents took proper care of their children and children were greatly moralized.Parents had time to listen to the problems of their children,they sat and asked them that what are their problems?Do they want anything?Are they disturbed of something unusual?Is she satisfied with the environment of house?And children clearly discussed their points with them and parents sorted out the problems from which their children were disturbed.The surrounding was very dominant,girls and boys were free to live their lives but within the limitation of religion and culture.Though there wasn’t technology,that much maturity but they lived their life beautifully,though they weren’t aware of the issues internationally but they solved the problems of their houses quietly,though there was not not Television,internet and cell-phones but the gathering and family discussion made their lives easy and quite pretty,though there wasn’t electricity but candles lighted their world,though there wasn’t so much happiness but the smile on each others face blushed the all family with a heaven’s view.
Today if we compare our era with them so many things have changed.People themselves don’t know how they are living their life,why they are living?They are that much depressed that they don’t have time to share their problems,they are so much aggressive and dis mood that they don’t have that humble nature to talk with their family members.They are confused that what to do and how to do?The point is that have they forgotten their religion,social gathering or their moralization.
Why today every one is so indulged in his/her own problems?
Is it due to extra technology,media,social-media,jobs?
The first academy of a child is mother’s lap,today if a child gets birth,the Islamic prayers are prayed in his ears but the process and way of life is not taught to him.
If we compare it as a list so it will be like this:
BEFORE & TODAY:::::
They were gathered, now They are separated.
They shared their problems, now They are afraid of sharing their problems.
They took out time for their family members but now they don’t have time for their family members.
They spread light with a candle but now Electricity is at high voltage,A.C and heaters are
available but still lights are extinguished.
One dish was sufficient for the whole family but now Thousands of dishes are cooked but still one house remains hungry.
Their pleasures were based in gatherings but Now pleasures are based on internet and
Mothers took out time and listened to their children with great attention but now Mothers take out time for dramas and serials but consider the problems of their children useless and don’t give them importance.
Children followed the foot prints of their forefathers and grand fathers but now Children follow internet and even don’t dare to take a glance on the life of their grand father.
They discussed their personal problems with family members instead of an stranger but now they discuss their personal problems with strange friends.
They had the relation of brother and sister with others in society now They have the relation of brother and sister with others in a society but others gave it the name of”Love”.
There was no place of suspense but now Suspense is the name of the world that we are now living in.
There were no schools and religious institutions but children were moralized and were in discipline but now Institutions and religious schools are present in a great number but still children misbehave with others and don’t give respect to elders.
The above sentences clearly explain the changes that have come right now.Today if a children wants to discuss her problem with her mother so mother answers her aggressively that“Keep your problems with yourself,Don’t give me an headache”. After listening this point from her mother she becomes disgruntled and she starts thinking that mother doesn’t love me.
It is the era of technology and people are getting spectacular popularity and success due to this,but when students use mobiles and chat with their friends or class mates so why mother doubts at her,she shouldn’t suspect at her because she already refused to listen to her and her problems so then why she doubts at her?
When mother knows that her daughter is stuck with her cell-phone so strange ideas develop in her mind that may be my daughter is chatting with a boy so she snatches her mobile and doesn’t give it to her.After it, she starts connecting with the internet and social media,where she adds strangers and bad people,she shares her every problem with those strangers and they disuse her silence and innocence.Tomorrow a person comes and tells her mother that your daughter has done this false deed,so mother slaps her and beats her,closes her in house and doesn’t gives her food.
After two or three months mother gives her mobile,so she chats with her teacher and here i will put a question that if the mind-setup of a girl is positive and she can handle everything positively so why suspense stops her from living her life positively?Chatting with a teacher is not bad but the method of chatting,mind-setup matters.When she chats with him so mother again does the same process,again the same social media.
If a mother doesn’t listen to her daughter at first and refuses to listen her so why so much doubt develops later.If a mother refuses to listen to her children so children become compelled to share their points and secrets with and outsider by which problems and insult increases.The basic right of a mother in today’s era is to listen to her children with more attention that what he is trying to say?What is his problem?that tomorrow he/she shouldn’t go and discuss her family problems,personal problems with an outsider.Today if parents don’t have five seconds to listen to their children so children will never think for two seconds to discuss her points with a stranger.When such circumstances produce so again the children is blamed,if it is a girl so she is killed by the power of violence.
When mother her self rejected to listen to her child and said it useless or wastage of time to listen to her/him do why she suspects at her then??? Parents should understand that time that they have lost their daughter/son at that exact time when they refuse to listen her.
If parents don’t have ten seconds to share their problems with family and don’t listen to their children attentively,let it be if she/he is saying something useless but first of all listen it first that what is her problem?In such a case the child is compelled to share her/his personal issues with someone outsider.It is not the fault of that child who adopts the way of social-media and chatting with a boy but it is obviously the fault of parents and that mother who rejected to listen to her children.
Today parents scream and shout at teachers and other people in society that they are giving bad manners to their children but why we don’t remember this thing that “Sab sey peheley apne garebaan main tho jank kar deko k ap khud kya kar rahe ho janaab”.
If i am wrong and i am not following what my parents say me so i don’t have any right to go and teach someone else to do something right.If i am right,my parents are broad-minded so i have the guts to go and teach others the lesson of goodness.
Today when mother wakes up in morning so she wakes her children with an aggressive tone and kicks him/her,the children wakes up and her/his day goes worse because her/his morning started with an aggressive tone.Mother prepares her children for school with slaps,abuses and anger,child weeps and goes to school with father.Father goes to office and at afternoon they come back.If they pray so they get busy with offering prayers and then take out dinner,after taking dinner they rest for a while and then they wake up,sweep the room,and the children take out the books to revise what they have learned today but what a mother does today with children?
They tell them to do household works and compel the daughter to sew cloths,children can’t reject so they do what their mother says,at night children get tired and sleep,homework and other educational activities are left undone,tomorrow when she/he wakes up so at early morning he remembers that he has not done his/her homework and hasn’t learned his lesson so she/he says his mother,mother slaps him at early morning and let him to do his works quickly.The child goes to school and teacher beats him for giving the home work incomplete.
Now here who is Guilty?????
I can’t understand why we are playing with our lives???
Today it is 21st century and a small child of 10 years is attached with the media that much ,if mother or father calls him so he replies in a very rude tone and again he is punished for this rude behavior.Due to so much punishment,a child becomes mentally mad,crazy.
Seriously ,i have observed it that today 99% of children are suffering from loss of temper,they are 58% totally mad and they can’t recall what they have been said because of attachment with internet and punishment given by parents.
Now the question raises what to do?
Parents should give love to children,care and attention,they should be strict with them but in a limit.If parents get tired and they can’t take out time for their children by which later children adopts the false way so why they don’t dump them alive????
If parents can’t teach them about their religion so why children should be alive?
I can say it with sure that today 89% people don’t know the history of Islam but know who won the first world cup and who was jagjit singh and Mark Elliot Zuckerberg .
It is the state of shame for us that we blame children,teachers and surrounding for the bad behavior of children.
Why parents don’t think of the final reason at that time when mother says:”Keep your problems with yourself,Don’t give me an headache”.
why father doesn’t think at that time when he doesn’t check his school dairy and doesn’t look after his daily routine???
just because parents don’t have time.
Today if children are irresponsible so it is all the fault of parents not the surroundings,because when a child takes birth so he takes birth in his/her own house not in the society,if a child grows up and walks first so he grows up and walks in the surrounding of his house not in society.Sooner or later the same child has to be a shoulder for his parents but how he will understand his responsibility when everywhere he sees corruption,violence and misbehavior.Today in one house there is one television,if father comes he turns the channel to a news channel where the news are:
Firing in X.Y.Z ,3 people injured and five killed.
Bomb blast in X.Y.Z,50 people killed and 3 injured.
A father killed his children due to severe hunger.
In X.Y.Z film X.Y.Z acts like this…
So a child doesn’t get the proper growth of the mind setup according to his age but he starts thinking that why there was a bomb blast?Who did it?How was it done?
Today we shouldn’t help each other by thinking that i am a Muslim and i should only help a Muslim,but we should unite as humans with the relation of Humanity.
If we come to Pakistan so what is the situation here?
Complete corruption and people are being killed like animals,the era of ignorance has taken birth again,girls are being dumped alive by the slogan“Be silent because you are a girl”.
Girls are not born to be dumped,they are born to bring revolution.Today there is no respect for females in Pakistan,all over the media a female is slapped and the government remains silent.
Are we so week that we should only tolerate the violence?
We are born to finish violence but we are creating more violence in the country that is leading the world to ignorance.
Lets take the example of Balochistan and Hamid Meer(the anchor person of Geo News).
The problems of Balochistan are not hidden,everyone knows what are the circumstances in Balochistan,People are abducted and killed heartlessly but no one dares to talk about the justice.Today every child is imprisoned in the world of tension and politics.Today a child watches news so he takes the track of politics,victory and if he watches dramas so he takes the track of smuggling,drug addiction,negative role.we are stepping back in the old age (the age of ignorance,illiterate and immaturity).
When Hamid Meer raised the voice of innocent people and talked about the rights of Balochs so he was shot and he was blamed that he has tried to misuse the name of Islam and his channel(Geo News) is still blocked.If he was blamed for bottomless work so in Balochistan the underground religious organization(Al islam ul Furqan)that has no name,no identity in the history of Islam,it came and closed the all private schools of Panjgoor so why the Government is blind????
It is 2014(21st century) so such huge problems are producing and children are loosing moralized character,they are forgetting respecting the elders,loving the younger and they are creating more disputes in houses because of media and surroundings and the environment.Parents don’t have time to make their children understand that what you are watching is not good,what you are doing is bad.
Now if we move to children so children themselves are confused what to do,they can’t make their career,they can’t decide what to choose and what to skip because their family members do not have enough spare time to discuss that what they want to be in future,likewise when children are sent to schools,teachers punish them instead of making them understand.
It was the negative side of Picture that we are always seeing when we wake up and when we sleep,positivity has been killed that’s why everyone writes on the negative aspects of the world.If i write against children so again the same topic comes that children are taught everything from the birth so how they can understand what is wrong and what is bad?
Children should respect their elders,love their younger.They must avoid unlimited attachment with internet and media but who will make them understand these all good points????
Our world has been a globe of compulsion,busy routine,aggressive behavior,harboring of hates,corruption, violence and the biggest thing is that we are silent and tolerating these all corruptions because we love our lives,we don’t want to die but what about other innocent people who go in bazaar to buy things and in return their dead body comes??
We have to break our silence otherwise that day is not so far that we all will be silenced by the corrupt leaders who are running our government.
Today you are afraid of breaking your silence because your family member has not been abducted,so are you waiting for the time when one of your family member gets abducted?????
Today you are afraid of going to school,participating in rallies because you don’t want to waste your time,so are you waiting for the time when your house will be exploded????
Today you are sitting in house with comfort because you don’t support the baloch freedom fighters,so what will happen if tomorrow your own brother takes the gun and goes with freedom fighters in mountains for the sake of your respect???
Today your mother beats you and scolds you that don’t discuss political issues because you are not only the one educated,so what will happen if tomorrow your education will be banned by the same mother for such political issues???
Political issues,bullets,guns,blood,nomadic life,breaking violence,bravery are the names of “BALOCH” .
I will write today because my father is with me,today i write and write without fear as a girl from a place like Panjgur because my teachers have taught me to fight for your right,it doesn’t matter if you are doing mistakes in your writing but your struggle will help others to stand against the violence.
Today i write and talk about my Balochistan because i have learned from my father that it is not a big deal if the world opposes you and stands against you but one day the world will remember you for your this effort.
Today i write for the sake of my blood because i am a Baloch and Balochs are not afraid.
Today i walk freely because Balochistan is mine and i have the guts to fight with the enemies.
Today i write and i write without the support of any leader because i am not Malala Yousafzai just because i am “Banuk Kareema Baloch”.
Written by:Yasmeen Sana Baloch…..